There were many friends in my network who really had no idea who I really was or what was really on my mind. Being a seeker can be a lonely path at times without fellow seekers on the journey.
It’s almost as though you need to start living a double life. This is because you know that your non-spiritual friends will look at you like you have three heads when you mention anything even remotely ‘woo woo’.
You come to a point of virtual isolation because you cannot fully speak your mind with those that you’ve known for years. You’re always holding back. Not giving them everything that you are.
There comes a time when the real you needs to stand up. A time to stand up and shine. Stop hiding in the normalcy. Start embracing your lighter side and sharing it with the world.
This doesn’t mean that you need to sell all of your possessions, climb Machu Pichu, become a monk and abandon all of your friendships. There are gentler ways to stand in your new power that are more realistic.
For me, it meant surrounding myself with people who were also seekers. People who “get me”. It didn’t mean abandoning all of my existing friendships. It just meant that introducing new friendships into my life made everything feel brighter and more promising.
These new friendships are absolutely fascinating for me and encourage boundless spiritual growth. I can finally say everything that’s on my mind without judgment or being misunderstood. They open my mind to new possibilities and gain trust and confidence in what I’ve been learning from the universe.
Coming out of the spiritual closet also enables me to be more of my full self around those who not yet seekers. It doesn’t mean that I need to end all of my previous relationships. Instead, they are opportunities for me to share the love and light with others who may be struggling. I don’t necessarily use the same verbiage with them, but you can still hold conscious conversations with others without all of the woo woo jargon.
They may eventually become seekers as well. Or not. And that’s okay too. But if they do become curious, they can be assured that they know someone who can help them find some answers to their questions.
Why am I a seeker?
Well, you reach a point in your life when you feel like you just have too many questions. And a seeker is someone who is looking for the bigger answers in life.
A lot of seekers that I know, tend to have a significant life event that makes them more curious. For me, it was the death of my father in law in his early sixties. I became curious as to what happened to his soul, what was his life’s purpose and how could I help create peace for my mother in law.
It was also the birth of my son who was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. It seemed like the only clinical solution for him was medication or therapy. There wasn’t much to find in the way of natural alternatives. Becoming a parent to a child with rampant temper tantrums was a big enough whack over the side of the head to realize that I needed to step up my game.
This spiritual journey has introduced more love into my life, which has become my go-to for every problem. Whenever I feel stuck, I can always think of a solution when it’s based in love. I’m not referring to romantic love. If you’re curious about it, check out “A Return to Love” by Marianne Williamson. This has created much more peace in my life and has answered a lot of those big life questions.
I’ve also found that using my curiosity has brought me closer to my life’s purpose. I felt like it started with a gentle whisper, then it switched to a nudge and now it is beginning to be a tap on the shoulder. Using the concept of seeking enables you to ask questions and seek answers to determining your greater path.
It was a natural evolution for my spirituality to spill over into my business as well. There was a disconnect for me once I hit my office. It took a great conversation with my coach to realize that even though I left the corporate world, I was still running my business primarily using my left brain.
My coach made me realize that for me, it meant changing the clients that I was working with. Instead of working with anyone who came my way, I starting asking more questions during my consultations to understand their “why”. This was a big turnaround for me in my business.
I believe in the philosophy that money only amplifies who you really are. And if I can support and help conscious entrepreneurs flourish, then I know that they will help make the world a better place. Not just in their own bank account.